What are the chances of me becoming pregnant?


We were only kissing. There is no risk of becoming pregnant from kissing alone.

We were doing really deep kissing. Deep kissing does not involve the transfer of semen to the vagina, so there is no risk of pregnancy.

I gave him oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth. Although semen is being ingested, there is no way for his sperm to unite with an egg when the semen enters your digestive tract. There is a zero chance of pregnancy from performing oral sex on a male partner (however there is the potential transmission of sexually transmitted diseases without the use of a condom).

We slept in the same bed but did not do anything sexual. There is zero chance of pregnancy when two individuals do not engage in sexual activity of any kind. Simply lying beside a male without sexual interaction will not increase your chances of becoming pregnant.

We slept in the same bed and he got an erection, nothing else. There is zero chance of pregnancy when two individuals do not engage in sexual activity of any kind.


He ejaculated but we were wearing thick clothing. The chances of becoming pregnant under this circumstance are extremely small. Most likely, sperm will not be able to find their way through densely woven fibers.

He ejaculated but a long way from the vaginal opening. If your partner happens to ejaculate near your vulva (external genitalia), there is a slim chance that you could become pregnant. Sperm can be pretty strong swimmers. However, if he ejaculates anywhere else on your body (stomach, leg, arm, back, etc.), chances of pregnancy are virtually nonexistent. To calm your fears of an unintended pregnancy, just wipe off the semen after ejaculation, or better yet, have your partner use a condom for better protection.

We had penile-vaginal sex with a condom. Latex or polyurethane condoms (not lambskin/natural) provide an excellent source of pregnancy protection if used correctly, not to mention protection against STI transmission. You and your partner must make sure the condom is undamaged (no rips or tears, no damage from extreme temperatures, etc.), within the expiration date (located somewhere on the wrapper), and applied correctly (rolled along the shaft of the penis with an air reservoir at the tip for the ejaculate). When your partner withdraws, it is important to make sure the condom does not slip off of his penis and is properly removed away from the vulva.


He ejaculated near my vaginal opening, but not in it. If ejaculation does not occur directly into the vagina, the chances of pregnancy are lower than if the ejaculate is released inside the vagina. Nevertheless, there is still the possibility that pregnancy can occur. Sperm may find their way into the vaginal canal even if semen made contact with your vulva. Making sure that your partner ejaculates away from you is one way to keep the semen away from your vaginal opening.

He ejaculated near my vagina but we were wearing thin clothing. Sperm are still able to find their way through very thin clothing as long as they are alive. A lot is dependent on the fabric, however there have been studies showing that unless a fabric is completely drenched in semen there is a very unlikely chance that pregnancy will occur.  So, for example, if your male partner ejaculated on your underwear, there is a possibility that the sperm could survive long enough to find their way into the vagina.

He ejaculated on an article of clothing, fabric, etc that interacted with my vagina later.  Sperm have an extremely limited life expectancy outside of the body (only a few minutes.) Interacting with sperm that has been left to the harsh outer environment such as rubbing your vulva with it will have a incredibly reduced chance of pregnancy. It is encouraged to avoid such activity not just from the increased risk of pregnancy but also because of the STI risk it poses.



The condom stayed on the tip of the penis, could I still have gotten her pregnant? 

The latex condom is the only form of birth control that provides protection from both sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. When the condom is not used properly, however, that protection decreases. Pregnancy can only occur if the sperm enters the vaginal canal. If the ejaculate remained in the reservoir at the tip of the condom, you should be protected from pregnancy.


It is very important to make sure that your partner is putting the condom on correctly (click here to watch a video tutorial!) and purchasing the proper size. Make sure the condom is not applied inside out. The lip edge around the bottom and the air pocket should be facing out. Roll the condom down as far as it can go. If the fit is incorrect, purchase a sample pack (like from Condomania) or order custom fit condoms (like from Coripa).

If the condom begins to unroll again, stop and replace it with a new one before continuing. The old condom may have sperm on it and can put you at risk for pregnancy. If any semen leaks into the vagina, speak to a healthcare provider as soon as possible about emergency contraception (like the Plan B pill). Plan B is NOT an abortion pill. Rather, the hormones in the pill work to interfere with ovulation or prevent it altogether. Emergency contraception can be used up to five days after unprotected sex. The sooner it is used, the better it will work to prevent pregnancy. In addition to using condoms, you may also want to talk to your healthcare provider about additional forms of contraception like the birth control pill or IUD. Using two contraceptive methods simultaneously will significantly reduce your risk of pregnancy.


My partner and I were rubbing our genitals together with my underwear on, and later without any clothes on. We did not have penetrative sex, but he ejaculated on my body. Is there a possibility that I could become pregnant?

Technically, in this situation there is a slight to medium risk of pregnancy. However, there are multiple factors that can contribute to the likelihood of you becoming pregnant. These factors include the type of material your underwear was made of, where in relation to your vaginal opening your partner ejaculated, and the amount of time your partner’s ejaculate remained on your underwear. The risk would be lowest if your underwear were made of a thick material, if he ejaculated away from the direct site of your vaginal opening, and if you wiped off the ejaculate or took your underwear off soon after the ejaculate made contact with the material.

You should be aware that sperm could potentially find their way through thin or porous materials (like cotton) and possibly cause pregnancy, although the likelihood is low. Your chances of pregnancy are also reduced if the liquid on your underwear was pre-ejaculate (versus ejaculate). Pre-ejaculate, or “pre-cum,” is expelled out of the penis slowly during the excitement phase and may or may not include residual sperm from a previous ejaculation.

Though your partner did not ejaculate inside of you, the risk of pregnancy did increase when you both removed your underwear. His penis could have expelled pre-cum during the situation you have described, which could result in pregnancy.  Though it does not sound as though there was much penetration involved, there is still a risk that the pre-ejaculate or ejaculate could have made it’s way inside of your vagina. We recommend using contraception, even if penetration is minimal, because of the possible risk of a pregnancy.  For more information about your chance of pregnancy, try our Pregnancy Probability Questionnaire!


Could I be pregnant?

If you have recently engaged in sexual activity with a partner and are wondering about the likelihood of this activity resulting in pregnancy, Sexinfo Online is here to help! There are several resources available to you to help you understand the chances that you or your partner is pregnant.

First, try our Pregnancy Probability Questionnaire (PPQ). This feature contains questions about the details of your specific sexual encounter. Based on your answers to these questions, the PPQ can tell you whether you or your partner’s risk of pregnancy is high, medium, or low. You can access the PPQ using the link on our home page or by clicking the “Could I Be Pregnant?” tab in the tool bar across the top of the page.

We also have articles entitled “Can We Get Pregnant If…” for female and for male partners. These articles contain examples of sexual activities and explanations of the chances of pregnancy for each activity.

Please keep in mind that these resources are meant to give you a rough estimate of your chances of pregnancy. If you believe you or your partner could be pregnant, we encourage you to take a home pregnancy test or visit the nearest doctor to find out for sure. For even more information about getting pregnant, and the chances of becoming pregnant, be sure to explore our many articles!


I had unprotected sex with my partner. What should I do if we do not want to become pregnant?

Anytime semen comes into contact with the vagina or vulva (the female external genitalia), there is a risk of pregnancy. Sperm can survive for several days inside of a female’s body and fertilize an egg, resulting in pregnancy. Pregnancy can occur at any time during your menstrual cycle (even on your period!), so unprotected sex is not recommended at any time if you are trying to avoid pregnancy. However, there are certain times in your cycle that do carry a higher chance of pregnancy. The closer you are to ovulation, which is the release of an egg from one of the ovaries and generally occurs 14 days after the start of your menstrual cycle, the higher the chance of pregnancy. This period of time is called your “fertile window,” and can vary from woman to woman.

If you suspect that you or your partner is pregnant, we recommend obtaining a pregnancy test. Emergency contraceptives (the “morning after” pill that prevents ovulation or the intrauterine device) are available and highly effective if taken within three to five days of unprotected sex. Emergency contraceptives can reduce the risk of pregnancy for up to five days after having unprotected sex. Just as the name suggests, however, these methods should only be used in emergency situations when unprotected sex occurred or another method of contraception failed. They should not be taken regularly as a primary contraceptive.

All of us here at SexInfo would like to emphasize how important contraception is not only to prevent pregnancy, but also to prevent transmission of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Condoms are one of the cheapest and most effective ways to do this, and can easily be found at your local drugstore or clinic. In the future, be sure to use proper protection when engaging in sexual conduct of any type.


Is pregnancy possible if my partner or I have an irregular menstrual cycle?

About one third of all females experience an irregular menstrual cycle at some point during her life. This can be frustrating if you are trying to conceive (become pregnant). Stress can have a huge effect on fertility, so it is important for you and your partner to try to remain calm and supportive of each other as you are trying to achieve conception.


To reduce stress you both can:

  • Communicate openly with one another.

  • Get emotional support from a counselor or group.

  • Exercise regularly and try stress-reduction techniques, including yoga and meditation. You can also check out our article on how to give a massage.

  • Discuss a medical treatment with one another.


The first step in determining a female’s fertility would be to buy an ovulation test (available at many grocery stores and drugstores). Ovulation occurs once per month around the 14th day of a female’s menstrual cycle (day 1 is the first day of bleeding) and marks the most fertile period of her entire cycle. A positive result on an ovulation test means that a female would most likely be fertile over the next two days. By having intercourse during this two-day period, the female would have the greatest chance of conceiving.

If a female has used an ovulation test for a while and has determined that she is not ovulating, or if you have had unprotected and regular sex for twelve months without conceiving, it would be wise to contact a reproductive endocrinologist (RE), otherwise known as a fertility doctor. Irregular periods without ovulation can be caused by Polycistic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), endometriosis, or other conditions that require medical treatment.

If a doctor has ruled out these conditions, the female may be prescribed fertility medicine to stimulate ovulation. Typically these medications are orally ingested (taken by mouth) and will stimulate the ovaries to produce eggs.

It is also important to check into male fertility. About one-third of infertility cases can be attributed to male difficulties. To have fertility checked, a male will provide the doctor with a sample of semen for analysis. The doctor will check the sperm count and make sure there are no abnormalities present.

The good news is, after testing both the males and females for the cause of their infertility, about 85% of couples will become pregnant and most pregnancies will occur within the first year of treatment.


My partner and I were having oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth. Is there any chance that I could be pregnant?

Pregnancy can only result from sexual intercourse or from an encounter where a male’s semen gets inside a female’s reproductive tract via the vulva or vagina. Therefore, activities such as kissing and swallowing a partner’s ejaculate can not cause pregnancy.

Pregnancy occurs when a male’s sperm cells come into contact with a female’s ovum, or egg – the female sex cell. Once every twenty-eight days (on average), a female ovulates, or releases an egg into one of her two fallopian tubes. The twenty-eight day cycle around ovulation is known as the menstrual cycle. After ovulation, the egg stays in one of the two fallopian tubes for a few days. It is during this time that a female can become pregnant, but only in certain circumstances.

When a male has an orgasm, he typically ejaculates a small amount of semen from his penis. Semen contains sperm, which are the male sex cells. If a male ejaculates into a female’s vagina during the time when she is ovulating, then the sperm (the male sex cells) will find their way to the egg (the female sex cell). When this happens, one of the sperm will join together with the egg, and this sperm-and-egg combination (known as a zygote) will implant itself in the uterus and begin to grow and develop into a baby.

In short, pregnancy can only occur if all of the following conditions are met:

1) Sperm enters the vaginal canal. 

2) The sperm makes it through the cervix and into the fallopian tubes.

3) The sperm fertilizes an egg.

4) The fertilized egg implants itself in the uterus.

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If two people kiss or cuddle, there is absolutely no risk of pregnancy. So relax and don’t worry, kissing is an enjoyable and risk-free way of sharing affection with your partner. Of course, you can become pregnant from other sexual activities if sperm comes into contact with a female’s vulva or vagina. If you choose to engage in sexual activity with your partner, we recommend you use condoms or some form of hormonal birth control, to minimize your chances of pregnancy. Of course, communication is important for any relationship, so we advise having an open discussion about birth control and pregnancy with your partner.


My partner and I are trying to get pregnant. What can we do to increase our chances of pregnancy?

Once semen has been ejaculated into the vagina, sperm immediately begin to travel past the cervix into the internal female reproductive tract. It is not necessary to keep the penis inside, as the semen is usually ejaculated deep into the vagina. One simple way to increase the chances of pregnancy is to have sexual intercourse during the female’s window of ovulation. Couples have the greatest chance of pregnancy when they have intercourse in the five days leading up to and including the day of ovulation. (This period of time is referred to as a female’s “fertile window.”) Ovulation strips may be purchased at a drug store and are similar to pregnancy tests in their use and design, but instead they tell a female when she is ovulating. If these tests are not readily available, you can roughly estimate a female’s fertile window. Ovulation typically occurs 12 to 14 days after the start of a female’s period, if she has a regular menstrual cycle. Another way to determine a female’s ovulation window is to check for increased viscosity (or stickiness) and a general increase in female discharge. Other ovulation symptoms include breast tenderness, abdominal cramping, and an increase in body temperature.  

Some doctors recommend the male-on-top position as the optimal position for conception. Placing a pillow under the female’s hips and keeping her legs raised may also aid in sperm travel. Having sex every other day during a female’s ovulation window instead of every day is also recommended, as this allows a male’s sperm count to rise efficiently. Avoiding certain positions, such as female-on-top or sitting down, can also be helpful when trying to conceive. However, it is important to remember that these are simply suggestions and do not guarantee pregnancy. The best way to increase the chances of pregnancy is to have sex during the female’s ovulation window and maintain a healthy lifestyle, which includes eating well and not smoking.