How do you prepare for Anal sex?

My partner and I would like to try anal sex, how should we prepare?

Anal sex can be a very pleasurable and exciting experience for both partners, if done properly, and should never be done without each partner's consent.

It is important to remember that the anus is very different from the vagina; it does not self-lubricate, it does not lengthen to accommodate a penis when aroused, and it houses many potentially dangerous bacteria. Before attempting anal sex, be sure to communicate with your partner to establish ground rules and make sure she or he is participating of her own free will.  Also, be sure to have plenty of lube and condoms on hand. It is a good idea to have her empty her bowels and clean her anus before participating in order to lessen the chance of spreading bacteria.

When you and your partner are ready to begin, be sure to lubricate the anus generously. The anus is controlled by two sphincters, one of which is involuntary and stays closed. Make sure your partner is relaxed and, before attempting to insert your penis, try gently pushing on the constricted sphincters with a clean, well-trimmed finger (to prevent the spread of bacteria, use a latex glove) to coax the sphincter to relax and loosen. Once your partner is ready, and with plenty of communication and lubrication, you can slowly and gradually begin to insert your finger, a sex toy, or a penis (always use a condom!).  Remember, slow and steady wins the race!  Trying to force anything into the anus without proper lubrication and relaxation can cause small tears in the anal tissue, which is not only painful for the receiving partner, but leads to the transmission of bacteria and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), including HIV/AIDS. Again, using a condom during anal sex is an absolute necessity!

After anal sex, you should never try to insert the penis into her vagina or mouth without thoroughly cleaning your penis, disposing of and replacing the condom in order to prevent serious infections.

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